On November 1, 2019, the fourteenth lecture of the THIS Parent School was held in the training building. Ms. Chen delivered the lecture on the topic of becoming a growth mindset parent and helped parents understand the whole development process of their children. She also discussed the knowledge and necessary actions that parents need to master during this process.
The content of the lectures and discussion was challenging for two reasons. First of all, there are different characteristics and challenges in different stages of a child’s development and parents aren’t always aware of the variations making behaviors difficult to understand. And this lecture involved sex education in childhood and adolescence, which is quite sensitive to many Chinese parents. In the lecture, Ms. Chen not only gave parents theoretical knowledge, but also some practical methods for understanding and dealing with these topics. What's more, Ms. Chen prepared rich text content for parents. The slide of the lecture is a concise textbook of children's sex education and intimate relationship education, which is convenient for parents to use at home.
In the first part of the lecture, Ms. Chen introduced Eriksson's psychosocial development stage theory, which is the most classic one in developmental psychology. Parents were introduced to the basic principles of sex education with significant emphasis on the need to educate children about these principles:
Sex education is very important. It can help children avoid a lot of troubles.
Sex education is not only the education of sexual physiology, but also the education of love and intimacy.
Each family can decide what kind of sex education to carry out according to their children's situation and family culture.
Sex education includes the education on preventing sexual assault.
In response to the common concerns of parents, Ms. Chen gave the following suggestions:
Parents should face up to their children's questions and encourage their curiosity.
It is better for parents to accumulate knowledge in advance to answer the children's questions on the spot. When you don't know how to answer, invite your child to explore the answer together.
Use the language that can be easily understood by your children.
Be responsive. If father is asked, father should answer. If mother is asked, mother should answer.
Sex education is not as difficult as parents think, and children will not follow bad examples. According to UNESCO research data, the average age of first sexual activity for children who have received sex education will be significantly delayed compared to their counterparts who have not.
After the lecture, parents actively asked questions on intimate relationship education. Ms. Chen shared her opinions and discussed appropriate solutions with them.
My child develops later than his peers, will he develop ahead of time and start to pay attention to sex because of sex education?
No. Your child will be exposed to all kinds of information from those classmates who develop earlier than him. The information given by you is more accurate and beneficial to his development.
How about using books to give children sex education?
Good Idea! In addition to the help of books, parents can also use the PPT of today's Parent School as an auxiliary tool. When parents provide sex education, they can focus on books to avoid the embarrassment of eye contact with their children.
Parents' written feedback was honest and sincere (Note: the topic of our next lecture will be selected from this feedback)
I learned the knowledge of sex education and the different stages of children's development in this lecture. Ms. Chen, thank you for sharing your own personal experience bravely and honestly with us.
I have learned the communication method of sex education!
I learned how parents can talk about sex with their children correctly and openly in daily life. I learned how to tell children what is love between friends, what is love between spouses/lovers, what is good love, and what are the different ways to express love.
See you on the first Friday of December!
作者Writing|Hua Tang (THIS Parent)
图片Pictures| Hanyin Song
编辑Editing| Hanyin Song
审核Auditing| Jeff Joyce, Toni Dong, Lan Yi,Wenping Li