Oct 11｜ 第13期家长学校
The lecture consisted of threeparts. Firstly, in terms of the emotional problems in parent-child communication, Ms. Chen put forward the proposal "to be a thermostat parent, not a thermometer parent". Based on brain research and neuroscience findings, Ms. Chen helped parents realize that parents' own emotions and behaviors can greatly affect their children's emotions and behaviors in the following ways.
After learning the theory of emotional management, the lecture entered the second part: practical skills. Ms. Chen introduced two effective methods of parent-child communication "Reflective Response Method" and "Three-Step Boundary Setting Method".
Reflective Response Method can help parents enter their children's inner world and to establish closer relationship with them. When parents "respond" (not"react") to their children's emotions, the parent-child relationship can grow more intimate. The better the parent-child relationship is, the more likely the child will be to follow their parents’ guidance.
The Three-Step Boundary Setting Method can help parents set reasonable boundaries for their children and to achieve the goal of effective communication. Parents and children frequently have conflicts over boundaries, as a result, fall into endless debates or pointless quarrels, leaving both feeling wounded and unhappy. The first step of Three-Step Boundary Setting Method is to use the Reflective Response Method to confirm children's feelings and needs. Then parents are suggested to set clear boundaries through communication in the second step, and finally parents could provide alternatives which are acceptable to them and their children.
After introducing the two methods, parents were invited to conduct a drill where they applied the two methods to real parent-child interaction situations. After practicing, parents gained a more solid understanding of the two methods, and they became more confident in the application of the two theories.
Ms. Chen's lecture taught me the importance of controlling my own emotions and some practical methods of emotion regulation.
Very rewarding! I learnt mirror neuron, empathy, Three-Step Boundary Setting, and so on. Can’t wait to practice them at home.
Today I learned that when children have emotions, parents should first be calm so as to help them. Plus, the practical methods are very beneficial!
During the lecture, parents were deeply impressed by the professional background and the cultural understanding of Ms. Chen. As the Primary Counselor, Ms. Chen deeply loves her students and keeps contact with parents. Parents are grateful to the school for providing such a valuable learning opportunity for them. They are also looking forward to attending the next lecture of Parent School.
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讲座内容 | Content
The characteristics of children in different ages.
How do parents adapt to the changes and needs of their children in different ages?
How to talk about self-protection with children of different ages?
How to talk about responsibility and love with children of different ages?
How to talk with children of different ages about their growing pains
How to help children of different ages deal with their relationship with classmatesat school?
作者Written|Hua Tang (THIS Parent)
图片Pictures| Hanyin Song
编辑Edited| Hanyin Song
审核Audited| Jeff Joyce, Toni Dong, Lan Yi,Wenping Li